Getting Closure Helps to Live in Abundance!

You must obtain the closure of wounds of the past and luggage you may have past relationships. Sometimes, we can organize the way they have been abused or lead to believe a lie, or worse these relations in recent years. I am happily married and I can gladly say that I regret anything or heart strings connected to any of my past relationships. I say this not to brag, but it's something I'm proud. The reason is that I did not bring my pain, the pain and waste of my past relationships in my marriage. One thing that helps me to have that confidence, I got the closure of my past relationships and help me live more fully in my marriage today. You can also obtain the closure of their past relationships and to help you live in abundance!

If you don't get closure at the end of a relationship it can niggled away at you for years. The end of a relationship is a big deal, but there are lots of smaller unfinished deals that can also be niggling away. As you walk through your home what do you notice? Perhaps the picture that still needs to be hung on the wall, the laundry pile that needs to be folded, and the tax return that still needs to be completed?

Things left undone on the 'to do' list in our mind take up mental and emotional energy that could be put to better use living abundantly! Just think about it the other way round - when you complete something, you feel good. When you finish a study assignment, read the last page of the book, or tuck the kids into bed at night after a long day of running around after them, the sense of accomplishment builds your self-esteem. Getting around to the things we've been putting off, is one way to release a whole heap of energy that you can use to live abundantly.

Forgiveness Is Key to Gaining Closure

One key to gaining closure in relationships is to forgive. Carrying around past hurts and resentments drains us of present-day energy to enjoy abundance in life. Like being stuck in quicksand the more we wallow in bitterness, the more it consumes us. Nelson Mandela, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize says. "Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies". Forgiveness is a gift to you.
To forgive, first you need to acknowledge that you are still angry. Next, be honest about the pain you felt. Admit to the fears and self-doubts that this caused you. Own up to any part that you played in letting the person mistreat you. Admit to yourself what you wanted from that person that you didn't get. Try to put yourself in their shoes for a moment and understand why they didn't or couldn't give that to you. Finally after admitting these feelings, let go and forgive. It will bring closure and release a whole lot of energy for abundant life today.

Live with Passion and have Abundance in Life!

Scott Epp
www.abundancecoaching.com